Healthy Relationships 101: Start a Conversation With Your Teen April 2, 2025 Understand Consent & Respect Teens should know that consent and respect in relationships are crucial to building healthy connections. Consent means agreeing to something willingly and freely. It’s not just about saying “yes.” It’s also about ensuring the teen’s partner feels comfortable and respected. “Consent is ongoing and can be withdrawn at any time,” said Shelli Dalton, SANE RN at Samaritan Albany General Hospital – Sarah’s Place. “Coercion is the practice of persuading someone to do something. This means consent does not exist if pressure or coercion are used to gain it.” Teach your teen to identify, communicate and respect other people’s boundaries, as everyone has different comfort levels. Both partners should feel equally valued and heard — they should listen to each other, value each other’s opinions and make decisions together. Empower your teen to trust their instincts; if something doesn’t feel right, it’s OK to say no, step away, or talk to a trusted adult. Encourage open dialogue with your teen and provide them with resources. They may have questions or misconceptions about relationships and it’s important to create a safe space where they feel comfortable asking. “It’s good to remember to be a role model for respectful, healthy relationships in your own life,” said Dalton. “Demonstrating good communication, empathy and respect in your interactions is key.” Recognize Unhealthy or Controlling Behavior Emily Jaskoski, SANE RN at Sarah’s Place says it’s never too early to talk to your child or grandchild about healthy and unhealthy relationships. Often there are subtle early warning signs that they may not recognize as problematic. Some examples of unhealthy relationship behaviors include: Checking their phone, email or social media without permission. Putting them down, especially in front of others. Isolating them from friends or family. Extreme jealousy or insecurity. Explosive outbursts, temper, or mood swings. Any form of physical harm. Possessiveness or controlling behavior. “Unhealthy relationships are centered around power and control, and the abuse can escalate with serious consequences,” Jaskoski said. It’s important to have open conversations to help them recognize these early warning signs. Start by listening without judgment and avoid lecturing. Be mindful of your timing and let them guide the discussion. Respect their privacy and don’t force them to open up. If they aren’t ready to talk, don’t give up — try again another time. By fostering open communication and providing guidance, you can help your teen navigate relationships with confidence and awareness. Sarah’s Place is the first sexual assault nurse examiner (SANE) center in Oregon. It offers free medical services for survivors of sexual assault, domestic violence and non-fatal strangulation. Visit samhealth.org/SarahsPlace to learn more.
